April 27, 2013
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I hate when people say they find the female body to be more delicate, graceful, or elegant than the male body. This is usually then associated with a thin waist line and curves that would necessitate a ridiculously flat stomach.
This dichotomy borders on absurdity because one of the body types I adore is a chubby gut. I like the muffin top; chubby girls are adorable. And part of why I like that body type is precisely because it isn't delicate or, necessarily, graceful. But it is one that welcomingly envelops you and is downright perfect for cuddling and snuggling.
I've said it before but I am still at a loss: why do we insist on shoving bodies into small little boxes and, in turn, contorting them into shapes that they neither have to possess nor makes any sense of improvement on them?
I cannot count (okay, maybe a slight exaggeration) the times I've seen an image of a guy that I mistook for a girl and immediately thought, "She's cute."
(case in point; I generally find it easier to just go for girls but I might just make an exception for you)This idea that bodies can be so cleanly divided into given categories such as male and female rather than there being merely trends that aren't always obeyed is criminal not only because it denies a very real existence for some but because it is monumentally boring.
There is a wealth of diversity within the physical frame of the human body.
And that can mean flat stomachs and thin waists and that can mean prominent thighs and that can mean thinness with no curves or shape and that can mean a chubby face and that can mean plainness and that can mean a myriad of many other wonderful features that could all be appreciated for a variety of reasons.
While I would like to think I have a very large range that I appreciate, I'm certain I have my particulars. And there are others out there who appreciate aspects of the body which are different from me or maybe even similar aspects for entirely different reasons.
And that is okay and that is beautiful and that should be celebrated (if we must celebrate the human body at all; I can't help it: I'm still largely in that camp. But, if I can't convince you to such stoicism…).
Bodies are different. Bodies are varied. Bodies are complex.
And we should be encouraging that complexity rather than trying to make it derivative. Your body, down to every feature and as a total sum of their parts, is uniquely yours: no one else in the entire universe can make a claim to the same body – and that's really fucking cool.
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YES. SO MUCH YES IN THIS POST. I never really considered, but it is true. Your body is uniquely yours. Do with it as you wish. If you want to be skinnier, do it! If you want to be chubbier, fuck yes (because I am totally in the muffin top camp, I love chubbier girls (◡‿◡✿) )! But you shouldn't allow yourself to change for others. I am mostly fond of the human body, and it's just so great that you can "customize" it to your own tastes.
Sometimes, I forget that society wants everyone to be the same. All women should be this way, and all men should be that way. The two shouldn't really cross (sure, women can dress "like men" but they're still adorable, they can't pull off the gruff, stoic-ness of men!) /society's thoughts. I guess I get... too emotional about the body debate? I don't know. But of course society wants all women to be thin, all the better to have everyone in that nice, appropriate "female" box. Men, on the other hand, should be muscular, but still lean, so they can fit in the tough "male" box.
It's all bullshit.
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