I also happen to find that the older I get, the more decidedly socially liberal I get.

 

I was under the impression it worked the other way....

I took a quiz (http://www.gotoquiz.com/politics/political-spectrum-quiz.html) that's supposed to place me on the politcal spectrum. I saw it placed me as a Libertarian and thought that odd. I'm a relative big spending and high taxes type of economic. I'm less firm on the issue than I am on social issues (plus I don't mind more conservative economic plans), so I can pretty much usually side with Libertarians - but still, struck me as off.

Then I thought it tried to place me as a moderate on social issues and I nearly starting howling with laughter. Good thing I rechecked it; guess I can't question it's accuracy all that much.

 

Compass: You are a center-left moderate social libertarian. Left: 1.97, Libertarian: 2.29
Foreign Policy: On the left side are pacifists and anti-war activists. On the right side are those who want a strong military that intervenes around the world. You scored: 0.38
Culture: Where are you in the culture war? On the liberal side, or the conservative side? This scale may apply more to the US than other countries. You scored: -3.9

These Republicans are my heroes for today: http://www.boxturtlebulletin.com/2009/09/29/15080

America is not perfect - there is much we have screwed up on.

That being said, this does not somehow restrict and constrain your ability to be patriotic. Just be aware of your own history. Truth isn't meant to blindingly hurt.

 

That's all I'm saying. I'll get a headache if I submerge myself anymore in...[stopping now, stopping now]

 

 

Our country - [...M]ay she always be in the right; but our country, right or wrong.
-Stephan Decatur

Because I can't keep quiet in the face of stupidity...heh, no matter who listens....

First, why is it we continually seem to look towards Beauty Pageant contestants for leaders? Ignoring my own professed beliefs...I think the past couple have been compelling reasons not to bother!

That could go into many other beautiful arguments and theories but for another day.

The other thing that pisses me off - two idiots (I do not use this lightly) on Revelife decided to make the claim that Christians were a "hated" group. News flash - just because someone doesn't agree with you, doesn't make you a hated group.

Ever been to a white supremacy website (check out Jew Watch if you're direly interested)? Their entire argument is that they believe in the freedom of others - but God forbid those minority groups work in the system and happen to come out on top of the majority. "The majority people in each nation deserve better." Essentially - you can live, so long as I get representation and what I say is considered right - only me.

Hmm, so that's what makes a hate group. It couldn't possibly be that people find the ideas utter ludicrous.

Forgive, this might totally be out of place for me here, but I'm bisexual and half Haitian. I honestly don't know how I got the idea in my head, but somehow I thought I had a better idea of hate and discrimination.

Let's look at the hate crime statistics recorded by the FBI for 2007.

52.2 percent were motivated by a racial bias
16.4 percent resulted from religious bias
16.2 percent resulted from sexual-orientational bias

Well, seems the religious beat us. Of course, it's not exactly mandatory for local law enforcement agencies to record hate crime information (http://www.boxturtlebulletin.com/Articles/000,004.htm). You don't possibly think that some states could give a damn less about what queers get killed, do you? Without hate crime punishments within a good deal of states still? No, not at all possible.

Well, now, let's break this down, shall we? According to the FBI, of those committed in anti-religious bias,

68.4 percent were anti-Jewish
9.5 percent were anti-other religion
9.0 percent were anti-Islamic
4.4 percent were anti-Catholic
4.3 percent were anti-multiple religions, group
4.0 percent were anti-Protestant
0.4 percent were anti-Atheism/Agnosticism/etc

Hmm...so, combining the Catholics and Protestants...that's 8.4% anti-Christian hate crimes. (you know, versus the 68.4% anti-Jewish ones).

Now, breaking down the sexual-orientation in a similar fashion,

59.2 percent were classified as anti-male homosexual bias
24.8 percent were reported as anti-homosexual bias
12.6 percent were prompted by an anti-female homosexual bias
1.8 percent were the result of an anti-heterosexual bias
1.6 percent were classified as anti-bisexual bias

So, even will our less than accurate numbers (for those who have gone unreported who were gay, etc.), considering there was a .2 percent difference between the religious and sexual-orientation people victim to hate crimes, there was about 89.8% more people victim of a hate crime with anti-sexuality bias than those victim of hate crimes with a anti-Christian bias.

Wait, wait - Christians are a hate group?

Heh, forgive me if I'm a little confused - who has the right to marry at the moment? Better yet - who has legal benefits given by the State that I don't have?? Want to talk about housing situations? How they're fucked as a result of anti-racial discrimination that we're still feeling the affects for? Or how about that if my name were Jamal, I would have 50% less of a chance of being hired (http://books.google.com/books?id=9I7ExPk-920C&pg=PA226&lpg=PA226&dq=Black+names+job+employment&source=bl&ots=r6Wsam1HvT&sig=eNcRkSPD3dnOAAA6kAP2jhQuvgE&hl=en&ei=L2T3SfeAD6WsNaOLoLYP&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=8#PPA226,M1) than if I submitted an application with my actual name?

Hate group? Are you kidding me? I'm floored! No, I'm insulted. I'm flabbergasted. In this country, you have the audacity to complain that just because your ideas are opposed, you feel you're hated? Perhaps you should recheck your ideas.

I believe in free speech; I believe in it because only in open dialogue can we further in progress. This is the perpetuation of idiocy.

 

 

 

 

 

In other news, gay Iraqis are dying by torture: http://www.boxturtlebulletin.com/2009/04/26/10950#comments
In Uganda, people still push for jail-time for life for being found to be gay: http://www.boxturtlebulletin.com/2009/04/24/10921#comments
Antisemitism is on the rise again in Europe: http://www.haaretz.com/hasen/spages/883342.html
I'm still able to find pictures like this online:
 (http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://patdollard.com/wp-content/uploads/nigger-make-up.jpg&imgrefurl=http://patdollard.com/2008/07/theyll-call-me-a-nigger-mccain-and-hussein-have-begun-nastiest-presidential-battle-in-decades/&usg=__0olbGA313rc2GpCXQ49eW0QRcU0=&h=290&w=400&sz=29&hl=en&start=2&um=1&tbnid=tcQhMM3UuJfgtM:&tbnh=90&tbnw=124&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dnigger%26hl%3Den%26sa%3DN%26um%3D1)
Many still don't understand sexism when faced with it.
And for way too "comfortable" an amount of people, I'm still a nigger - and I'm still a faggot

What's that other negative word people call me for being Christian? Oh, right - there is none

I was debating writing this, because in my own circles it needn't be said. I hate the culture war with slight exceptions, I do. However, I've been sticking my head in the news for far too long a period today and it got under my skin.

As anyone who knows me would admit, socially, I'm quite liberal. You can persuade me more so economically but you'll find little luck on the social spectrum.

So, recently, I heard someone complaining about how we view the world today. "People's morals today are just trashed". Yeah, and they totally weren't many years ago...I'm sure the Dark Ages was tons more advanced than us today morally. Open up Shakespeare, please - utter genius but the greatest source of tons of sex. And guess what - your Freshman children are reading up on sexual innuendos and sex at 18 (or so) right now (Romeo and Juliet). Now go panic and proclaim the end of the world, please.

As one person (I'm certain it was on Revelife - continual source of intelligence coming from there) put it, "Who would have thought that today's people would decide right and wrong on what they feel?" (emphasis mine, with the possible exception of the italicism; I can't properly remember). And then I read a blog today noting how the God-awful "liberal" media makes everything seem fine if we just plaster "love" and "feelings" over it. Yes, they were tying the connection of a female teacher molesting a 13 year old male student of theirs to homosexuality (can I hear some respectable groans from the wonderful gay and bi people in the crowd??).

You know, funny thing about that - socially liberal people (note I specifically mention socially liberal; a previous post of mine, for those who have read my xanga for a while now, helps to understand why that distinction is important) actually really like facts.

This would happen to be why most liberals (on average) happen to be atheist in comparison to social conservatives (which, of course, makes my own piety a tad bit laughable). This would also happen to be why the higher the education you have, the more liberal you're likely to be.

So, when we happen to say that homosexuals aren't boogie men we've created to try to tear down society...that's because the American Psychological Association actually has stated that homosexuality is rather natural and not chosen (some of your best friends are gay, you know).

"...but rather protesting the open nature and societal acceptance of homosexuality, an orientation which many scientists view to be an a-posteriori choice." Oh, are you kidding me??
"No, human beings cannot choose to be either gay or straight. For most people, sexual orientation emerges in early adolescence without any prior sexual experience. Although we can choose whether to act on our feelings, psychologists do not consider sexual orientation to be a conscious choice that can be voluntarily changed." (http://www.apahelpcenter.org/articles/article.php?id=31).

We haven't decided this simply because we felt it. It came upon our radar because we felt it. Then we assessed it. And we found it to not destroy entire societies (believe me, at the rate they're going, by now I have the ability to set several forests on fire, start earthquakes, and bring about the end of the world. And to think I was worried with something like clinical depression). The whole reason we're pushing words like justice, equality, and hate is because we've already passed the right/wrong portion of the class. Please, could you keep up?

You'll have to forgive us, but we just find these following tenets common sense:
-How someone dresses shouldn't make that big of a deal - the content of their character ought to.
-While we have no issues with, really, any religion, we do have an issue when you want to make that one religion the law of the land. Sorry to break it to you, but you do live in a nation with many others. They deserve their rights as well.
-Hey, we like autonomy. If they aren't harming anyone - leave 'em alone.
-Guess what - we aren't perfect yet so to assume things should remain stagnant isn't the best thought process. If you want to take a literal description of moral conservatism, to conserve means to keep as was. That means a social conservative today would have been a major liberal in the eyes of the past. Wait...

Now, don't get me wrong - I have rather conservative tendencies (I like to think they subside my homosexual ones...okay, even I'll admit that was a bad one). I believe in logic and reason. Following this, either extreme (liberal or conservative) could not be correct. However, social liberalism happens to be more so.

One, I'm a Christian (which, when all is taken into account, is a really funny paradox). I'm a strong advocate of abstinence (as my concurrent rants and long streaming opinions continue to point to a somewhat extreme opinion on sex in general). I obviously believe in more conservative dress (my own clothing style is so mundane it's pitiful). I am pro-life (that's the simple answer; the actual one is a bit more complex). I'm definitely anti-gun control. I disagree with "porn booths" and the selling of porn at gas stations, though I would support continuing those running since I believe in that right (though I am willing to hear the argument that porn booths degrade the community, not to mention encourage more public sex. However, you have no real argument about the gas porn, honestly).

The thing that separates me and makes me liberal is that with all of those (with the exception of abortion and gun control) is that I don't shove my personal opinions down someone else's throat because it's not going to hurt me. I don't care how much porn the next person buys (though I do pity them for going through that process if they have an internet connection at home - honestly, that's just stupid). I don't care how much like a jack rabbit the next person humps; I knew someone was having premarital sex in my own dorm - the girl seemed to be having a blast, from the sounds of it. But I'm not dead from the fact, yet.

The fact is, I originally wanted to do this without attacking and just pointing out the facts of it. But, honestly, mandating prayer in school is an attack to me and, more importantly, an attack on the child who could use that school time to be learning. Maybe it's really conservative of me, but I think the family should be the source of that child's religious enstillment, not the government and certainly not the school. I find it an attack when I'm told I can't have the basic legal rights to marry and keep a job. I find it an attack when, for a country founded on the idea of free speech and allowing other ideas (no matter what we may think of them), those ideas must be restricted by my government.

So, in short, I'm a social liberal not because I'm blazing with feeling I just cannot contain but because it doesn't insult my better intelligence.

Also, if anything confirms the idiocy in my mind, its the phrase I found on this page: http://www.facebook.com/group.php?sid=83448ae0e58f7f86d366251132fabc3c&gid=2230733281
"MAKE WAR NOT LOVE assholes"

Damn, I just feel so guilt ridden and dirty now....

Or my new favorite I just found: "They [social conservatives] do not subscribe to abstract notions such as 'reason' or 'progress'..."

Axis_of_Doom, could you comment on that one, just for me?

So, reverting back to the original child molesting post that drove me to this entry, the author writes, "Haven't we learned from the Beatles 'all we need is love, love is all we need'?" and then proceeds to tear down all the "liberal" ways that promoting love has diluted the topic (oh, the Beatles, those scandolous liberal bastards!). Yet somehow I have a feeling - sorry, I interpret that Lennon actually meant love when he coined the phrase. And that can lead to many things (compassion, patience, trying to understand, etc.). But I'm not going to try to explain or justify it further. If you have a brain, you ought to be able to figure it out.

Ehh, I hate the culture war. If you want to further discuss or explore things I've written here or simply clarify, comment or private message me. I would have no doubt I didn't explain something I wrote here properly.

Was an interesting day. I went downstairs to do laundry. After washing my two loads ($1.25 each), I went to dry them. I realized them I only had $1.25 left on my card. Thinking I had no more laundry money, I went up 5 floors to my room to check anyway. Once there, I found I had a 20. I go back down. I realize I don't have my card. Go up and down about 2 more times looking for it. Finally, found I dropped it in the drawer where I got the 20. Go back down, enter my final $1.25, head next door to Paresky. I find out both machines are out of order. I go to one of the offices, they tell me to try Sawyer (the library). I head there, look around a bit - nada. So I ask the librarian, she tells me try Hopkins. I try Hopkins, ask someone in the Registrar office, they tell me to try security. I go to security just to find out they're ordering new ones and I need to use quarters. Having little, I ask around for quarters, get two from Heather and finally do my laundry.

And just when I think I can forget and put behind my back Prop. 8.

Anyone remember when I posted the Supreme Court of California's decision on gay marriage? I made a huge deal out of it. Why? Second state to allow gay marriage (and now the dumbasses allowed Conn. to steal it from them), it was decided upon by conservative judges, and it played within the system. It was the system working as it should. The judicial branch decided that something was unconstitutional due to the fact that our government is based upon equal treatment of all. That's where it should have ended. This is why we're a Republic, not a Democracy. This is why these stupid innitiatives (and I mean all, not just those dealing with gay marriage or adoption) ought to not be. But, at the moment, our government does have these innitiatives and the decision was revoked.

We lost.

And I remember just feeling connected as a community. Just about everyone I talked to who was gay, bi, etc. remarked on it. I think someone said they just felt like they were stabbed. And there were more than enough allies, I noted, that were just as angered. We all - maybe because we're in a time when we can actually be out of the closet more, maybe because I'm more involved now, because I'm paying closer attention to gay events - seemed to mourn that day, in some way. We either said it wasn't over (maybe we just couldn't believe that it would be) or we just felt remourse.

And I remembered thinking, how do we come back from this? Well, I can't judge how much it's being made known, but perhaps you've heard there are protests spurting up. Like mad. I said when Cali. got gay marriage, it was history. Now we're in the middle of something remnicent of the civil rights movements. But I worry. I worry because people have already begun to say, "They're never be satisfied. They have no regard for anything else and they won't be happy 'til they get what they want." We're whining, it seems. And our image is suffering.

And then I'm reminded that, this isn't fair. When MLK, Jr. fought, it wasn't with what others were saying. He was questioning laws which were considered acceptable by the courts. He was saying they were wrong.

And part of me wants us to yell. Give gay people these protests, at least, damn it - they lost the ability to formally consumate their love. Give them this, at least. And we aren't holding back. You can feel the anger, the frustration, and the refusal to say no that we all felt that night as those polls came it. It's mostly Morman churches that are being targeted, because the Morman church as an institution incouraged its members and poured tons of money in. So the signs read, "I didn't vote on your marriage", "You have three wives - can I have at least one husband?", "Your church is not my state", and "I'm a second class citizen". And it's not just Cali. It's Utah and New York and Mass. We are not pleased.

And as some pointed out - where were these crowds for the amendment? When we needed to oppose Prop. 8, where were these people? And I've always wondered that, because gay people have a history of being complacent. They sit back and enjoy the little they carve out until it hits them upon the head that it's not enough - that they're settling for little, for less than equal. And the rest of us who actually want those rights a reality sit and wonder why. We get frustrated. And to be honest, I don't think the civil rights movement for us is over - it's just been dormant for a long while. But where are our leaders? Either dead or too old. We need new ones, and it seems fast, if I judge the times.

But then someone put it so clearly and I finally got why this is. It needs to be changed, mind you (or we need good enough leaders to propel us forward), but I finally got why it was.

Gay people generally aren't the placard-waving, bomb-throwing, chaps-wearing, communion-wafer-stomping radicals we're made out to be by the Bills O'Reilly and Donohue. Most gays and lesbians are content to be left to alone; many gays and lesbians go out of their way to ignore political threats and political activism and political activists. Only when gays and lesbians are attacked—only after the fact—do gays and lesbians take to the streets. Remember: the Stonewall Riots were are a response to a particularly brutal and cruelly-timed (we'd just buried Judy!) police raid on a gay bar in New York City; ACT-UP and Queer Nation were a response not to the AIDS virus, but to a murderous indifference on the parts of the political and medical establishment that amounted to an attack.

Most gay people grow up desperately trying to pass, to blend in; most of us flee to cities where we can live our lives in relative peace and security. We don't go looking for fights. And most gay people walk around without realizing that they've internalized the dynamics of high school hells some of us barely survived: it's better to pass, to stay out of sight, to avoid making waves, lest you attract negative attention, lest you get bashed.

But once you get bashed, once someone else throws the first punch, then you fight back—what other choice do you have?
-Dan Savage of SLAG (http://slog.thestranger.com/slog/archives/2008/11/12/and_here_s_what_s_wrong_with_g)

Well, it's been roughly 5 months that I've been single now. My younger self would never believe it possible, but I don't think I've done that since before Freshman year. Actually, I think the most time would probably be 3 months, generally (quite often), 2. And I didn't even start the interest for more than half the girls I've dated. I'll never understand why anyone would meet me and suddenly take interest in me. Yet that's happened...and yes, they generally end out bad (though who am I kidding, nearly all of my relationships end out bad).

So, to remember this depressing dry spell (honestly, when I try not to date, someone comes along; when I could care less, no one sticks out (or stays in contact with me long enough!)) - I'm gonna do a survey. I have never realized how hard these are to find without stealing from a friend. For once, a search engine failed me.

Quick note before, though - Dr. Rick Carter does have an emoticon - D. See the mustache?? This is officially the only one I will ever use.

::FIRST, A LITTLE ABOUT YOURSELF::
Name - PBJ

Gender - gender's perfomative, but socially accepted as male

Age - 18

Birthday - Nov. 22nd

Sign - no clue

Sexual orientation - bisexual

Height - 5'6"

Weight - 156, last I checked. probably has went up since then

Body Type - Umm?

Ethnic Background - Haitian, German, French, Spanish, Scottish, English, Polish
Languages you speak - English, bit of spanish (though I can read it far better than I can write or speak it). My own languages are still taking some time to learn

Religious persuasion - what is that even? Um, Catholic, if I'm guessing right the question

Relationship Status - single, hence why I'm filling you out

If single, are you looking? Or do you not care? What's the dealio? - it's complicated

::OPPOSITE SEX PHYSICAL PREFERENCES:: - you ask orientation, then limit this to the opp. gender??
Hair color - no preference

Hair Style - actually wouldn't care. just about anything has looked fine (then again, I'm not exactly picky). though pigtails have always reminded me of porn; and I've just shattered the hearts of many little children. sorry

Eye Color - doesn't matter. red eyes are cool, though. of course, that also means you have to be albino, but it's a perk, if you ask me

Skin Tone - don't care

Ethnic Background - could care less

Height - doesn't really matter; I've dated girls taller than me, though it seems the shorter one's are always the ones to pursue (with the exception of curly)

Weight - just how shallow do you think I am?

Body Type - beauty is a false face

Fashion Style - generally plain. I'm dreadfully boring, I know, but I think the most attractive outfit is a hoodie and jeans. while I've never dated anyone who needed to constantly wear dresses or anything, wild out there styles are fine as well. it's a good reflection of the personality

Subculture (if you had to choose) - goth, hands down. gothic chicks rule

Do any of these preferences usually apply? not really. they're all very surface level. and not every girl out there is gothic, so that ruins that

::WHAT YOU LOOK FOR PHYSICALLY IN THE OPPOSITE SEX::
Favorite body part to touch? - at the point of a relationship before marriage, hand or back (when holding the individual). I don't have wondering hands, the other does generally (*cough*Emma*cough*)

Favorite body part to look at? - BOOBS. definitely. in fact, if I'm talking to you and you're a girl, I'm probably not even paying attention; just staring at the twins (that was sarcasm, if you couldn't catch it)

Any physical characteristics you find most attractive? - I have this odd thing with hands. and a smile can be a killer. But the hand thing is still superficial and a smile lies a little more on personality.

Any physical characteristics you find unattractive? - not really. people are wonderful, all in all

Are there any accents you like? Dislike? - no, I wouldn't say so, though I'd most prefer a Chicago accent. I like ours the best, I found, when once comparing

Do you like it when they wear nail polish? - no

Do you like it when they wear make up of any kind? - definitely not. people look best naturally; make up does nothing, if you ask me

How do you like them to carry themselves? - however they damn well please

Any mannerism you find attractive or unattractive? - non that I can think of at the moment

::NON-PHYSICAL PREFERENCES:: - finally!
Personality traits you find attractive - gotta have a sense of humor. outgoing can be good, sometimes, but so can being shy and quiet. I confess I'm first pulled to shy people. is intelligence a personality trait? it does influence how someone is a lot. that's deathly important. gotta be smart (as I massacre this with awful grammar). attentive. I like attention - I admit.

Personality traits you find unattractive - lying, rude, back-stabber, hypocritical, ignorant, stubborn, high matenance, uncompromising, ignores, avoids, self-righteous, pretentious, uncaring, vain, self-centered

How important are morals to you? - quite, though that can boil down to care about others. you hurt someone (and don't care), forget me giving you the time of day

Do political views affect how you see them? - not really, considering more than half the girls I've dated were conservative (I'm a liberal bisexual - why were they interested again? Okay, technically Lindsay didn't know beforehand...). your views, in general, will affect me, but unless you're a psycho variety from either the liberal (you know, advocate for repeal of age consent laws or some shit like that) or conservative (think you're a prophet, want to make gays second class citizens, want to conserve old laws like seperate but equal, shit like that) side, we ought to be fine. Honestly, an intelligent and well-leveled conservative will disagree with me most on economic issues - and if we can't talk civilly about that, we may need to worry about our relationship moreso than our politics. Politics is mostly dumb culture war and that's all people know of it - there's really no actual reason to fight

Do you like it or dislike it when they curse frequently? - cursing reminds me that you can still think and don't allow society's views affect your judgement in life. while I will need you to realize saying, "Fuck," around a five-year-old is unacceptable, words are words and should be treated as such

Do they have to share your religious views to be compatible with you? - not at all, though every single one so far has, oddly enough (or relatively enough, at least). Though I might find some qualm if you're a Calvinist. just maybe

[This -or- That]
Good girl/boy -or- Bad girl/boy? - can I pick moderate?

Rocker -or- Hip Hopper? - I'd love someone who's into hip hop, just because I find so little, but I love rock with a passion as well, so that's fine. however, if they're into rock, they better be cool with metal. the only metal I can excuse would be death metal (just because you can't understand a word of it anyway and it's way to sporadic)

Dog person -or- Cat person? - either is cool. I love both

Liberal -or- Conservative? - preferably liberal, but economically conservative is fine as well. libertarians rock

Disciplined -or- Free spirited? - mix of both. there's a time for everything

Safe -or- Dangerous? - I value my life (heh, well, usually...)

Completely laid back and calm -or- Hyper and flamboyant? - oy. I do have a history of hyper ex's. though I suppose I'd need both. I opperate in extremes, which means either insanely out there (and taking nothing I say seriously) to quite serious, sober, and melancholy. eh, 'tis me

Virgin -or- Experienced? - I really wouldn't care how many they've had sex with in the past, but they'd have to understand I plan on staying a virgin until marriage. however, if they are quite experienced, getting tested may be required

Rational -or- Emotional? - rational, please

Very shy -or- Very outgoing? - answered above

Introverted -or- Extroverted? - introverted in that they ought to be reflective. people are the most complex of things - know yourself. extroverted in that I hate being shut out. keep in connection with me, let me in. I don't want to feel like I'm up against this wall peering through a hole

A creature of habit -or- Unpredictable? - probably habit. it would depend, I suppose.

A hopless romantic -or- A horndog? - what the Hell's a horndog? romantic, please. otherwise it'll be weird when I'm rediculous with the gifts and whatnot... D

Simple and boring -or- Complicated yet intriguing? - isn't that phrased a bit biasedly? complicated. I need someone complex

Innocent and naive -or- Wise and knowledgable? - they ought to be knowledgable in what they know. Know lots and tons. Knowledge has never hurt anyone - only the lack of it has. however, they should probably be innocent and naïve in what they've done in their life

Hot -or- Cute? - cute. based more on personality

Ugly and totally compatible -or- Gorgeous and completely obnoxious? - Can I get an Ugly for a Success Relationship?

Proper and polite -or- Rough around the edges? - depends. Fighting Sorina over the cheesecake and stuffing our faces was total fun and definitely a turn on on her part, even though it was totally not etiquette. however, you've gotta be polite to people and give them curtiosy.

Intense and passionate -or- Sweet and reserved? - um, geez, gotta be passionate somewhere, I guess. the intense though is a little frightening, while the sweet definitely catches the eye. Sweet and passionate?

Outspoken and highly opinionated -or- Happy-go-lucky pacifist? - I guess the first one

Smooth and sexy -or- Adorable and awkward? - adorable and awkward. awkward girls are so cute, plus they make you feel more comfortable about being yourself around them. and it's different because usually people say be normal, you'll fit in, etc. So it's like defying the status quo by being yourself

::YOUR VIEWS ON DATING/RELATIONSHIPS::
What is dating by your defintion? - a mutual agreement of entering a relationship higher than friendship by two (or I guess more, for those "breaking boundaries" types) people

What is a relationship by your defintion? - I dunno. a statement that defines a connection between two people. acquantances, friends, family, partners, even fuck buddies - all relationships

Can you date more than one person at a time? - others may choose to. me, I'm monogamous and will expect from the gf/bf the same as well

Can you have a relationship with more than one person at a time? - according to my definition, we all are

What constitutes cheating? - while I don't approve of looking at (or checking out) other people during a relationship, I suppose I still wouldn't consider it cheating. however, flirting, making out, starting another relationship at the same time - all no

Is cheating ever justifiable? - not really. I probably won't hate you forever, so long as you apoligize. but it might be harder to trust you

Would you get back with someone who cheated on you? - depends. see above

Would you expect to be taken back if you cheated on someone? - not at all

Kissing on the first date: Acceptable? - considering I kissed both Allison and Emma before the first date, I'd say so. not to mention, I kissed Chelsea before we even started dating

How about sex on the first date? - if you want to go home and masterbate to the wonderful memories I've given you that night, go right ahead. But abstinance for me (I think that's the first funny thing I've said this whole thing. what a shame)

One night stands? - HA (and no, that doesn't stand for Acid)

Sex outside of marriage in general: Acceptable or Not? - again, don't care about your past. but during the relationship, nope

Would you sleep with a gf/bf? - you haven't gotten this one yet, have you?

Would you sleep with just a friend? - no. that'd make things so awkward, because, as much as sex is utterly unrelated to love, people still put attachment to it (we have society to blame for that)

Would you kiss just a friend? - it wouldn't mean anything if I did, but no. I have not had problems with other friends kissing me, though (however, if you do it on the lips, I'm gonna have to wonder if you're coming on to me)

Would you do anything sexual at all with just a friend? - wasn't this asked before? well, if you consider making out sexual, then I guess yes, but that probably means I like them and want to go out with them (you'd think that'd be obvious)

What are your sexual boundaries? - nothing past first base

What do you consider a perfect first date? - I dunno. the date has to be there. but otherwise, we could do just about anything, I'd be fine. movie, walk. I still have yet to do that cook something together idea, so that'd probably be the next date I do with someone

What could your crush/bf/gf do to make you jealous? - heh, not much, probably. I actually get jealous really easily, but usually over small rediculous things. and I know they're rediculous. but yeah, just me

Guys: Would you always call her first? - eh. heh, any of my ex's can attest I don't make the first move often, unless I know by some means I can and things won't get weird or you won't mind it. but I generally suck at keeping up conversations, unless in person (and even then sometimes...), so better be ready to talk a lot. with Lindsay and jess, I'd just listen to them talk to themselves; I'm not at all hard to please, clearly. okay, maybe a bit

Girls: Would you get upset if he rarely/never called? - This and the last question are so sexist

What could a gf/bf do to make you feel insecure about your relationship? - avoid me, be unresponsive to stuff I do (like, I make a joke and you look like you weren't even paying attention; I do hope I'm not that boring). but I panik over little things too (granted, largely because my 1st to 5th gfs thought it wise, for whatever reason, to dance around anything rather than be straightforward with it. missed a date? break up's on the way)

Would you let your bf/gf be as free as they wanted to be? - what does that mean?

What would you do if you became/got your gf pregnant? - wouldn't ever happen

Relationships are 50/50: True or False? - absolutely

Once a cheater always a cheater: True or False? - naw

How do you know you like someone? - I dunno, you just know. generally you can't stop thinking about them, a lot. and you kinda jump when you hear their name (or think you do) or see them or their screen name comes up (sounds corny, but, hey, we really do live in the online age)

How do you know you LOVE someone? - geez...you just know, really. I mean, I only have one example, and I dunno. I just knew with her. with jess - I dunno. just knew

What is romantic love by your definition? - um...I dunno. romance. I dunno

Do you like people easily? - like? if crush qualifies, yes. if like as in long period of time, I'd say no, I guess. moderate there

Do you fall in love easily? - HA. I'm much too picky

How do you know your feelings are no longer there? - there's just nothing. you don't feel like seeing them, don't get excited anymore. it's a depressing point. stop making me think of it

What's the hardest part about a break up? - the other person's reactions. granted, the two times I've had to do it (heh, yes, I suck that much at dating), they were both kinda rediculous and the situations they were in just made me feel like an ass

Do you stop liking/fall out of love easily? - liking, as in crushes, yes. long term liking, not so much. depends on the person, really

Is there a difference between liking and crushing on someone? - yes. crush is kinda, "They might be interesting. I like the personality so far". Liking can consist of crushing but also you know them better and want to go out with them more strongly (or are just flat out interested in them)

How do you differenciate between liking and crushing? - see above

::CURRENTLY::
Like someone? - it's complicated

Crushing on someone? - not at the moment. there were some brief ones at the begining of the year

In love with someone? - not anymore. heh, feels so long ago

Dating around? - psh, I wish

Looking for someone? - it's fucking complicated

How relevant dating/relationships are to your life right now: ehh

And that took me an hour. Wow. D (okay, I just wanted to use it once more)

And I'm sick of hearing that Obama is a communist or socialist. Also, for those who want to move to Canada because of his election, you're a dumbass (for I think obvious reasons). And I just saw a group titled Obama's a communist with a Hitler mustache drawn on his face. Wow. So, who failed history, here?

Civility ought to be a virtue...along with intelligence...

I'd also like anyone to name one time I bad-mouthed Bush or McCain unreasonably here or at anytime. Just grow up, honestly. Ignorance is stifling.

Is it honestly so difficult for us to be civil during politics? And I don't mean politicians, I mean amongst ourselves. I don't think I'm really going to look at some of the people I know the same way again. I've never felt more dirty, elated, disappointed, and misguided after a night of voting.